Blog #5 - Separation of Intuition & Ego
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Discover the Truest Freedom in Presence by Shrinking the Ego and Empowering Intuition
Let us use this space, right now, while you’re reading this blog post: release any blockages when you start to feel the heart pump that jumps to defend / deflect / deny. Allow yourself to be present without self-judgement, without inner shaming, without the emotional reaction to say “that’s not me”.
Let us use this space to breath and relax and absorb the teachings within the wisdoms of presence.
The Ego
We’ve heard this word throughout our lifetimes, and often it is used as a negative jab at someone’s personality and behavioral patterns of traits and treatments. So when we’re faced with our own ego issues - we get defensive instead of accountable, we have a list of reasons that are actually excuses, we deflect back to them instead of taking the feedback as care for character. That is the ego in autopilot, involuntary emotional reactions built on the memories of the victim-hood you’ve experienced in first person perspective. The ego is a shield that enables entitlement, it is a toxic relationship with the unconscious inner self. It is a protection mechanism powered from survival mode.
How many memories just sparked in your mind in reading all of that? I want to challenge you to take some time to slowly read that paragraph again and observe yourself - reflect for a few minutes on the most recent interaction you’ve had in which you reacted from the ego. Just hold space for that discomfort. And, if you’re sensing the compassionate connection with your self right now, I want to challenge you even further to keep hold of this presence with yourself, write it down - write out what your ego looked like from the perspective of the other person interacting with you, and what your ego was pulling entitlement from: what is the core wound that ignites your behavior in that way. Then, sit with it and ask yourself - do you like this about yourself? Assess: Is this a quality that I value and respect in others? Do I value and respect it within myself?
Intuition
When we apply self-awareness, as we just exercised, we open a portal in our minds and bodies to sit in the discomfort of self-reflective truth. We are essentially getting to know ourselves in the same way that others are getting to know us as well. From this awareness, we develop clarity of the self, we then can hold ourselves accountable for not fully meeting the values we have deep within us. That relationship you forge with your inner self - that is your intuition. Your intuition will tell you how to speak, how to act, what choices to make in each moment, what boundaries are important to you, and how to have better discipline in accountability. Intuition is our truest selves - and we have the only direct connection to mature it to our desires. Without a healthy relationship with your intuition, you are susceptible to contradictions, blatant double standards, expressive hypocrisies - qualities of the ego that can lead you on a path of abusive behaviors to the self and to others around you.
Start Journaling
My top recommendation to everyone - start writing yourself onto paper. It doesn’t need to be a “dear diary” format, it doesn’t even need to be structured notations - it simply needs to be a record of your experience of yourself. It can be a word dump, a story telling of events, a dialogue you had with someone, a train of thought you had with yourself, a bubble diagram of feelings, a pie chart of behaviors, an illustration of how you observe yourself - the act of putting on paper is the goal here. Get things out of your head, out of your heart, out of your being, and on to a separate carrier of truth so that you can visually assess your character and mode of personality from an objective perspective. Sometimes, a running narrative in our minds can confuse our intentions - bringing these ideas outside of us, gives us the freedom to engage in a wider field of processing.
Imagination
From these exercises of addressing the ego, hearing the intuition, recording the thoughts and feelings - our imaginations will begin to stimulate! This is the space in which you start making conscious choices about who you want to become. Allow yourself to envision your dream personality, what you admire in others and want to develop for yourself, what you dislike in others and want to release from yourself. This is the space where we mature, create, and evolve. The truest freedom in presence.
Summarized Steps
Address your ego - be honest with yourself, without excuses
Learn from your values - give your intuition a voice of self-respect
Document your reflections - visualize your inner work and growth
Create your character - develop integrity that banishes the ego
Thank you for reading this blog post I have created to stimulate discussion with yourself. I hope that it has opened your mind, body, and soul to a new angle of self-perspective. If you would like to work together in this exploration of self, please look into my life coaching offerings and determine if signing up would benefit your journey of evolution. Right now, for the Autumn Equinox, all new signups will be 50% off, so keep in mind after this season ends, signups will return to the original pricing of $222 a month. If you have feelings to share or questions to discuss, please leave a comment and we’ll engage in this experience altogether.
